5 Secrets to Be the Best First Date of His Life!

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I was given another brief for another article. How to be the best first date of his life! Unpublished.

1. KNOW WHAT YOU WANT or at least KNOW WHAT YOU DON’T WANT Though it’s hard for you to believe, guys take the time and the effort to plan that FIRST DATE, so if he asks you beforehand about where you’d like to eat or the kind of movies you watch don’t say “maski saan” or “maski ano”. Know what you want or at least know what you don’t want, don’t be afraid to tell him that you don’t like to have dinner at the neighborhood “isawan” and that you don’t want to watch Scary Movie 5, give him ideas on what you like and it can take off some of the pressure from first date jitters.

2. KNOW HOW TO ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS AND GIVE THEM BACK If he tells you that you’re beautiful say “thank you” and flash that winning smile, better yet, say “you’re not too shabby yourself”…or something to that effect. Don’t just brush off a compliment from him by changing the subject or pretending not to hear. “Bolero ka talaga” and “tumahimik ka nga” are not good comebacks to “You look good”. It’s hard for us to build up the confidence to give a sincere compliment, and acknowledging that compliment makes the thumb twiddling worthwhile.

3. SMALL TALK Start out small. Talk about how the two of you met, either through class or a common friend, that terror professor or how you spent hours trying to find that class held at “TBA”. Look for common things of interest that you can confidently share about and don’t go rushing into the realm of metaphysical ideologies that can shape your future and the future of mankind! -- Unless the two of you are into that. Don’t talk about past relationships on the first date. We don’t want to know how many men you’ve dated, how bad your past relationship was, or how good your first boyfriend treated you – not yet at least. Guys try to draw you into a comfortable rapport that will make the mood light, not just for you, but for him too. The point is, take it slow, don’t force a conversation and don’t throw out one word answers to his probing questions.

4. CASUAL TOUCHES Touch him, be subtle and casual. Remove that imaginary lint from his shirt, preferably on the collar, shoulder or upper chest area. When you laugh at his joke or witty comeback hit him lightly on the arm or hand if within reach. When walking some distance from one place to another, hang on his arm for a few seconds. Men use the 5 senses a lot, exploit these senses, we are especially responsive to touch and the sense of smell. Looking beautiful on the first date is expected, but smelling incredibly good and having that tender hand makes men tremble. The objective is to physically show him how it feels like to be near you. And believe me, once he sees how good it is to be around you, he’ll do everything to get you to remove more “lint” from his shirt.

5. BE SINCERE IN YOUR APPRECIATION Now that the date is winding down, be sure to thank him sincerely. If all went well and you honestly want to see him again, tell him. There’s nothing wrong in letting him know that you had a great time and you would want to go out again. You’ll enjoy watching him all giddy with delight. It validates all their pre-date planning and grooming. It lets him know that there’s something there to explore and that he has sparked your interest. Once he sees you to your door, say thank you for the wonderful time spent with him, and if you really like him, give him a light kiss on the cheek. You can be sure to hear a story that starts out like this: “Pare, let me tell you about the best first date of my life…”

Here's to good food, fine wine, and great company!

Kevin Cabanban
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